A sassy response to two stupid articles.

marriage

So there are these two articles floating around. It would be in your best interest to give them a little skim through before continuing. Enjoy if you can.

http://nycpastor.com/2014/12/29/10-women-christian-men-should-not-marry/

http://nycpastor.com/2014/10/23/ten-men-christian-women-should-not-marry/

What’d you think? You’re about to hear what I think. :)

I think what makes me the most angry about these articles are the Biblical truths thrown in between a lot of crap. Oh my goodness, yes, it is totally and completely Biblical to NOT marry unbelievers. But oh my gosh, NO, age does not matter.

First, the Unbeliever. Okay, we’re off to a good start. He’s right. Christians are not supposed to marry unbelievers. Woo-hoo. Next…

And it all went downhill with the older woman/younger man. I’m honestly confused by his statements. I don’t understand his Biblical “proof”… “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve” (1 Timothy 2:13-14). Because taken in context, Paul is talking about women’s roles in the church, not how old her husband is. And I am all about statistics, but his random “53% more likely to end in divorce” stat didn’t help me figure out his Biblical backup to his claim. His next man in “Ten Men Christian Women Should Not Marry” is the spiritually younger man. I completely agree with this statement. But why does age matter so much to this author? A man can be more spiritually mature than his lady without doing the math in his head and saying “Oh sorry, I’m one month and two days too young for you”.

Divorced men and women, that’s on both lists. Let’s just say a woman (statistically speaking, this a far more likely scenario than the flipped roles- see I told you I like stats!) is physically abused by her spouse. According to the author of these fine articles, she is to either stay in that situation or to get divorced and remain single the rest of her life. Now, I haven’t done a lot research on Biblical divorce but… really… divorce is a sin but it’s just as forgivable as lying.

Back to the list of women- the feminist. I’m not going to go into detail about this point solely because I could write an entire blog about how and why I think you can be a Christian and a feminist at the same time.

Now we get to some that I actually kinda agree with- goodness, he is inconsistent- yes, being angry, narcissistic, dishonest, idle, and addicted are all sinful. Should that stop a woman from marrying a man? I think it depends because these are all sins that anyone could struggle with. Now, if the man is all of the above, I’d say you can find someone who is worth more of your time.

And I don’t disagree with the list of women either. The Bible states to dress modestly, and to refrain from gossiping. Again, though, those are both sins that anyone can struggle with. Is anyone else noticing the stereotypes of the women being the only ones to gossip and the men being the only ones to get angry and lie? Interesting.

We are now on number seven of the list of women- careful, ladies, this one might offend you. A man is not to marry the “child-hater”. Yep. The child-hater. Meaning, if a woman does not desire to have children, she should remain single. I think children are great but I do not think it’s God’s plan for every married couple to have children. For one, the world would be way overpopulated. Also, a couple’s ministry may require them to be childless. If my husband and I can do better work for the Lord without children, then that’s what I’m going to do. The author of this article can’t take a few verses out of context to try to prove that God’s plan for everyone is the same because that’s incorrect.

Number eight. The wander-luster. Because it’s not okay for women to want to see the world that their Creator has made. And if I’m reading my Bible correctly, the verses he uses to try to back this up are talking about adultery not adventures.

The career woman… ha… ha… he actually makes some okay-ish points about this one. A woman shouldn’t put her career above her family but neither should a man. America basically requires both the husband and the wife to work full-time to be able to live (should I enlighten you on the wealth distribution in America?). A career can be and should be important to a woman if she wants it to be.

We’ll end on a higher note. The last one on each list is “The Devotion-less Woman” and “The Un-Evangelist”. Both are good qualities to have in your spouse. Everyone should be digging into the Word and everyone should be telling others about Jesus. Way to go, author man, you ended pretty well.

This was probably a whole lot of word vomit and sassiness but I hope you enjoyed regardless. I want to hear your opinions and I want you to tell me if I’m wrong- but back it up with relevant scripture, please. Thanks for reading!

-mjm